Broken Daughters

Picking up the shattered glass of fundamentalism

Being thankful: God’s plan, Glass bowls.


Life has been busy and a lot of good things have happened over the last few days. I’m thinking of sharing some of them, but that will be a different post.

A few days ago I have received a comment asking me about my I met a socialist post. The question was why I believe that being thankful for the smallest things in life is wrong. I thought about this for the last few days. It kind of bugged me that it really could come across like I would believe being thankful was a silly thing, so instead of answering the comment I decided to make a whole post about it. No offense to the poster of the comment, I generally agree with you, I reread my own post and realize I didn’t explain well enough.

I posted the following statement:

Fundies are obsessed with the idea that God will provide for all their needs. They don’t mind not having enough, they just pray harder. They interpret every single good deal as God’s gift to them – “Oh my geese! I just found a notebook for $1!! GOD IS SO GOOD!” Are you kidding me…?


Now, that wasn’t directed at people who are thankful when good things happen to them. I’m thankful for the smallest, silliest things too! Even when it’s only the last clean tissue in my purse when I got a runny nose. The point is that a lot of fundamentalists are caught in an almost magical thinking that God will provide them everything they ever need as long as they pray for it long enough. That goes as far as rejecting help when it’s offered.

I don’t understand why people reject help when it’s about paying a medical bill, arguing that God doesn’t want that. On the other hand, they praise God for a note-book. They say that God has a plan for us, but we don’t know the plan. That everything happens for a reason and we have to accept his perfect will. If you do believe that, you can not pray for things. You can only give thanks, but not pray for God to interfere, simply because God has a premade plan and doesn’t need your opinion on it. He will not fulfill things you want, only things that are good for you. And yet, many fundamentalists still pray for things to happen and only loosely cover it up in being thankful. Such as “I want you to do the best and I fully trust you. I’d really like it if you could do XY but I’ll be thankful either way. But XY would be really great!”

To be honest, I don’t believe in an interfering God anymore. I think God is there, and he made us, and he has a plan, but we have to get there alone.

And that’s why I find it hard to understand why people believe that God sets up all things for them. That praying will be enough and things will fly at you. We have to take actions to get where we’re supposed to be. The “sit and pray” mentality, which was very important in my family, is not something that I believe God wants us to do.

It’s really just the sit and pray mindset that upsets me. And it’s not about notebooks really, but praying for them, or just praying for “signs”. I really can’t tell you why I think it’s weird to believe in signs or gifts from God, I just can’t believe that at this point in my life. I don’t judge anyone who’s thankful.

But then there are days like today – I broke a small kitchen bowl that I really liked a while ago and have been missing it here – I went grocery shopping this morning and can you guess what was on sale for just $2? Almost the same glass bowl I broke, for half the price I bought it back then. I bought two of them.


4 thoughts on “Being thankful: God’s plan, Glass bowls.

  1. “To be honest, I don’t believe in an interfering God anymore. I think God is there, and he made us, and he has a plan, but we have to get there alone.”

    I like this. I don’t believe in a God at all anymore, but I think that if there actually is one it definitely isn’t the personal, involved in your life every moment kind of God.

    Anyway, you go girl!

  2. Thank you so much for clarifying. ❤ That makes more sense.

    I do believe that God is involved with our lives and that He loves us in a personal way. I can understand why you have rejected these ideas and I pray that God will guide you to a clear understanding of Him.

    if I had huge medical bills, I would be thanking and glorifying God if the government paid them. In fact, that very thing happened for a dear Christian friend. Her husband (a Baptist pastor) died suddenly and we were all glorifying God when she was able to get MediCare for him retroactively and they covered all the bills. In fact, nobody we know even considered that she shouldn't have accepted the government's help.

    I agree with the fundamentals on some points, but reject many. I really don't seem to fit in with any group, but that's ok. My current pastor calls himself independent Fundamental Baptist yet the whole church was grateful when he and his wife aged into MediCare so that we no longer had to pay their medical insurance. I often suspect that we are the only fundamental Baptist church which is truly independent.

  3. God doesn’t always provide for all your needs. Also, needs are sometimes provided even when you don’t pray or believe in God very well, or read your bible, etc. Sometimes, I wonder if things still happen “by chance,” although I have been taught that God’s hands are in everything, and that all things happen as a result of what he does. To be honest, I’m not really sure how real prayer works, or if there is such a thing.

    • Of course, that’s what I’ve been arguing in the past too. People of all religions pray, and some get their needs and wants met, others don’t. If God really wants everybody to be a christian, I think he’d fulfill more christian prayers than say hinduist prayers. I read somewhere that in every religion, the rate of “heard” prayers is at 30% or something. Too bad I didn’t save that site in my favourites… Either way, I’m not really sure whether I should believe in prayer at all. Plus, you know, stuff like praying for good wheather in july and then thinking God heard your prayer is kind of weird…

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