I’m having an angry day.
I strongly advocate not only for women but also for men who stand against the P/QF mentality for whatever reason. I do not in any way diminish the pain and hurt caused in men by this movement, but I feel like I need to talk about something that mainly effects the single women within the movement and puts additional pressure on their souls: The health benefits of being Quiverfull.
Talking about health in combination with the Quiverfull movement is a relatively new way to argue pro movement. I didn’t grow up on it simply because there wasn’t much of a research going on in my childhood but over the last 5-10 years a whole variety of scientifical articles was published on the topic of early pregnancy and having more than average kids.
You can google “health benefits cancer early pregnancy” or something along those lines and you’ll find a wide variety of articles on different topics, for the sake of laziness, here is a link to one of the articles.
Now, while I’m not arguing that research is wrong or that considering breastfeeding or having another baby because you also want to benefit from this is a bad thing, I do dislike the way it’s used as (almost) a weapon against girls and young women who question the teachings of the QF-movement.
Parts of these researches are regularly brought up at conference, home school conventions, camps etc to prove to young women that the QF movement is the right way of doing things, that the teachings and ideas of the movement leaders are – in fact – God’s only true way. Listening to the leaders of the movement talk about this almost has a “I told you all along” feel to it. They feel like modern science has not only confirmed their teachings but also the infallibility of the Bible.
“God’s ways are perfect, so if you follow God’s ways, you won’t get breast cancer.”
This behaviour sickens me deeply. I want to bring to your attention, dear reader, that the movement abuses modern scientific research to support their ideas and to shove them down the throats of doubting young women – and they abuse these researches not through the promotion of the idea of having many kids is biblical, but mainly because they use modern research to prove the bible right – while other research is ignored as it questions the correctness of the bible (see evolution theories).
It’s nothing new that the leaders and followers of the QF movement have a kind of “pick and chose” mentality when it comes to ideas, biblical or scientific alike.
Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them
is the best example for the pick and chose/interpret what you like idea. I don’t see where it says “Thou shalt accept every child the Lord hath sent you” here. All I can read is that a man who has many kids is blessed and should consider himself a lucky man. It means don’t cry and whine about the tough times, or tell them you should never have had them. It means, if you can afford many kids, it’s a great way to spend your money and it will make you happy. But, as I said, taking the bible literally might not always be that literal after all.
And what about the young women and even older women who suffer from this practice of being told about all the great health benefits when it just doesn’t work out for them? I know of plenty young women, 25 and older, who have been “called to singleness”. And those poor sheep have to ramble and preach about how amazing motherhood is, how important it is to have kids, and many! How beneficial for your health, your soul, your life they are! I don’t think they are very happy when they go home and sit alone. There will be plenty of people asking them why they aren’t married yet, asking this painful question: “Do you think you’re called to singleness?”. And I have read all the poetic, witty answers the women come up with – “Today I am.”. Wonderful, but that won’t change the fact that, according to Billy-Boy and the rest of the ATI/Vision Forum crew, you are going to get breast cancer and possibly die a slow and lonely death. I know it sounds hard, but I know that these women wonder why God would do that to them.
In a way, it seems to me that a breast cancer patient would feel very insulted by these teachings as well. After all it puts the blame on the patient for not having any/not enough kids. “You could have avoid it, after all, if you followed the Bible.”
I think that, at the end of the day, this is just another way of the QF-boss-crew to get their way, to disable women from speaking up against them. Now they even have doctors on their side. A young woman, still developing in her faith and personality, can easily be manipulated by these teachings. Women who might not have followed through with the QF idea might do so for a whole new dimension of fears. The fear to lose your soul to the enemy and to go to hell is something very abstract and surreal feeling and one might question if the QF way is the only way to be saved, but when it comes to physical health in this life, fears can be put into a very real possibility. After all you never see a person suffering in hell, but you do see, meet and talk to women suffering from breast cancer.
Yes, this was a very angry rant but I needed to get it out. It simply disgusts me that the blame for getting cancer is so subtly put on the women who suffer from it and that it’s used to drive women deeper and deeper of the abyss of following teachings they might not follow otherwise.